Hi, my name is Paul, and I’m a recovering Sex Addict. I’m also a Getting Things Done fanatic. For those that don’t know, Getting Things Done is a methodology for improved productivity and time management, developed by a fellow named David Allen.
I’m not going to waste the bits to talk about the GTD methodology. If you google GTD, you’ll find tons of information, or grab a copy of the book Getting Things Done. It’s probably at your library, as it’s been around a while.
There are several computer programs that use GTD for just about any platform out there. I ended up choosing a program called DOIIT.IM, because for me, it worked on the platforms I needed, and wasn’t too expensive at $20 bucks a year. (BTW, they do offer both a free Web-only version, and a 30 day trial of the full version, if you want to check it out.)
I do want to focus on addiction and GTD. How can implementing a program like GTD help the addict stay in recovery.
In Chapter 12 of the book Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame, authors George Collins and Andrew Adelman discuss the concept of “First Thought Wrong”. Unlike the spontaneous thinkers in Gladwell’s Blink, the intuition of the addict is flawed. By default, they will, without thinking, gravitate towards their addiction. The goal of a good recovery program should be to put space in between the flawed intuitive reaction, so that the addict can stop, think, and pursue alternatives.
With a GTD system in place, the addict can always turn to a list of alternatives to acting out, things that will be positive and move him towards a planned project or goal. Instead of wasting time acting out, the addict is given a choice to use time effectively.
GTD is also positive for the addict because it helps her reduce the stress with trying to juggle too many things in the head, and the resultant crash. Finally, GTD can assist with the planning of time to work on recovery as a goal.
I stumbled upon this by accident, and I felt that it would be good to share with others moving from shame to grace. If you’d like any help with GTD or recovery, please feel free to reach out to me.